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I fear that I wont be successful in life and wont ever get a job because I dropped out N have social anxiety?

I fear that I wont be successful in life and wont ever get a job because I dropped out N have social anxiety?I'm 16 years old turning 17 next month. Ive had a bad time with school my whole life and dealing with my dads bad health for 8 years. It started in 6th grade when the other students used to tease and bully me. I got scared to death to go to school. I would skip so many days and stay at home where I felt safe. I failed 6th grade because of skipping so many days and my grades were all F's. Then I repeated 6th grade over again and it was pretty much the same, getting picked on and teased for being overweight and looking "too old". I developed anxiety from this and ended up skipping a ton of days. I would even be scared to go out in public around people and even my own relatives because I thought they would judge me or make fun of me. Sometimes I dont leave my house for months at a time. I dropped out half way through 7th grade and half way through 8th grade because of anxiety. Then last year, I went into 9th grade and 2 months after school started in 9th grade, I dropped out because of the anxiety. I fear being in classrooms and being around other students because I constantly think they're going to say something bad about me or judge me. I felt like there was nothing in life except going to school and coming home to eat and sleep. I couldnt figure out what life was about while going to school. The school always treated us like prisoners and we were forced to eat inside for lunch with 500 kids cramped into a cafeteria. This even made it worse, I was scared to even get my own lunch so I would just sit there while everyone else ate. One day a teacher that worked there walked up to me and said "Arent you going to eat? Boy, if you dont eat something you gonna vanish" and goes on to ask me what grade im in and how old I am and then says, "you look like you should be in 12th grade, you got a full beard and everything" and this hurt me even. My dad has CHF and is in the hospital every 2-3 months because his lungs fill up. If its not his CHF, then its always gout or something else that makes him go to the hospital. Hes been sick ever since I was 8 years old. I worry about him constantly too.

After I dropped out, I wasnt just gonna sit around so instead I bought a treadmill and started losing my weight. Since last year ive lost 30 pounds and look smaller and feel better about myself to where im not so self conscience anymore. I still get nervous sometimes being in public places and going to my relatives knowing that I might have to socialize or conversate. I have a hard time talking to strangers and I can never talk to them. My mind goes blank and I cannot speak!

Ever since I dropped out of school last year, I can see the world alot more clear. I noticied that there is WAY too many things to do in life than just go to school. I know that im smart and i'm not dumb. I can read, write, and spell perfectly. Its just that im not good in academics! I have never passed a test in school, the only tests ive ever passed were spelling tests LOL! I have never done good in math or anything!

I contacted this counselor here at this vocational school that has GED classes VIA e-mail. I e-mailed her last month 2 weeks before school started and asked her about GED classes. She told me that my city doesnt have classes for people under 20, but instead have a high school completion program where you attend the vocational school and earn credits to earn your high school diploma. I really dont wanna do this! I just wanna take GED courses for maybe 6 months and then go on to take my GED test. Then she emailed me back and told me that she found a GED program and would need my parents signature to go GED. She then told me she would send me details on this program the next day. After the next day, she never emailed me so I sent her a email asking her if shes "heard anything" and she didnt respond, I sent another one a few days later and she didnt respond. Is she busy with students schedules? She controls everything from the trades, to the students schedules for the HSC program also. Should I try emailing her tommorow? I havent emailed her in probably a month almost.

I fear that even with a GED that I wont get a job because of my anxiety. I see kids my age and get so jealous because they have jobs! I seen some kids that I knew back in 1st grade and now they're all 15-16-17 years old and have jobs at a grocery store! It pisses me off because I cant do a simple thing socially! I have no friends and ive been a loner for the past 6 years! I used to have friends along time ago before I messed up in school.

Well, i'm done babbling, sorry for typing so damn much. I just had to vent I guess on some issues. Please people dont leave no rude ass answers or answers disrespecting me!
PS- I posted a question familiar to this one the other day. My mom ended up getting on my computer and she found the question I posted. She didnt say nothing to me though but I knew she read it because she told my aunt. She also kept hinting that "its not anxiety, your just shy!" and it pisses me off because I know that its not just shyness! It was just some random thing she said to me, and then at that point I knew she had been reading my question. I used to be a shy kid all my life when I was younger but I had friends. I probably wouldve grown out of it if it wasnt for the bullying.

Elli
Ok,first OMG then listen...i'm a male wich had exactly the exactly same problems as you ! But i didn't droped the school,i've took all that stress like F0CK ! listen here.

Suffered :

-severe depression
-ptsd
-chronic fatigue
-etc.

add me ass YM if you wanna really talk :



obey _ the _ sistem @ yahoo . com

momma
I am so sorry that you were made to feel that you would not succeed. I don't know you personally so all I can do is give you my opinion. First of all you need to believe in yourself. It is very important if you want to succeed. To help prepare yourself for a GED test you can go to the library and get a GED book. Email your councilor again. Let her know that you are very serious. If you don't think you can do this (get GED, get a job,etc) Then do it for your dad I know that he believes in you. You can do anything you want you just have to put your mind to it and put your whole heart in it. You have been so brave so far for your dad, and I wish you all the best. Just remember that people who bully only do so because they are unhappy with their life or themselves. Please don't give up be strong and show your dad that your the man he always knew you would be!! You and your family are in my prayers. God Bless.

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Negative emotions (like sadness, stress, anger, etc.) causes your Serotonin production to be low; when your Serotonin level is low, you are more prone to getting Anxiety, Panic Attacks, Depression, etc.

Medication like Antidepressants (SSRI - Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor) helps to boost Serotonin level.

But there are natural ways to do it without medication. There's this strange herb called "St John's Wort" - it is said to be more effective than Prozac. No, it is not for mild depression only and ignore those sayings. In fact, it does help anxiety and panic-attacks as St John's Wort works like prozac. Other natural ways will be exercise, diet, more exposure to light, etc.
The problem is that, even if your Serotonin is balanced... you have that "learned behavior" in your mind. You need to break that initial cycle to destroy that learned behavior - Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) does this. A technique that you can use without CBT will be Distraction... There are several other techniques to help cope them!
Ok, to use Distraction: Firstly, try to....

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