help me out date idea (no answers last time)?

help me out date idea (no answers last time)?I'm pretty good socially but I am not good at escalating and creating attraction. There's this chick I am really into who I would consider to be higher value than me (bad mindset already, I know) - she ALWAYS has "hot" guys going after her. Anyways, I have her number and we've chatted a few times but I dont really know her that well. I usually initiate everything. I was thinking about calling her tonight and just chatting and then telling her Im going christmas shopping saturday and if she'd want to go with me. This way its a non-threatening atmosphere and we can have fun and hangout, but its not a gay guy thing because I HAVE to shop for christmas stuff. Not really as a date but as friends and a chance for me to get to know her and be attractive to her. Good idea? tips?? I just hate when I go out with girls to just han gout and they get there and its like... "ok, so what are we gonna do?" ANd I say, " Oh you know, just thought we'd chill." We just walk around and talk and it feels kinda quirky.
I'm worried that me asking her will come off more like she is doing me a favor to come hangout with me, you know? I tend to be the confident, funny, sexual guy to a lot of girls that im friends with, but once I like a girl I turn into the "shy, nice guy". I don't display any overly sexual characteristics. I am still funny and talkative and can make sexual jokes but I'm not great at escalating. Also not great at kino, all I do is hug her and tough her arm/shoulders during convos. I just dont FEEL like an attractive man. I know what I need to project to portray these things, and once she gets to know me I know I'd be awesome, but I dont want to come off as just a friend. Also dont wanna be the overly sexual jerk who doesnt respect her.

Mike
I sound like you.. you can always go to a movie and your idea sounds fine why not go with it take her shopping or you can order chinese food and stay at home doing whatever. Or you could both become pirates and sail the high seas I wish I could do that with a girl.

KAS
No wonder I passed on this question before - soooooooo long to read and understand.

Here's my take on it: Don't know how old you are? Go to the movies and only try to hold her hand during the movie. If things go well after the movie, why not go somewhere to eat.
Just be yourself and find things to talk about.

nikki
wow you sound like you really care about this, i think the mall thing is a good idea :)

n
you sound like a sweet guy, i'm sure she'll enjoy her time. just beyourself and talk like you normally would. Make the 'rendezvous' fun. joke a little...make her laugh. get a drink together like a coffee or nice festive drink? talk about things that aren't too serious, general or private. also, start the conversation and listen to what she ways. make sure the conversation bounces back and forth. Also, if you suggest the ideas...mabe she'll go along. be like........hey, i thought this would be fun or what do you think of this (because you're going shopping, let her give her oppinion as well.) hope that'll help and have fun!! MeRRy Christmas!!

Sami
Have a game plan, but be spontaneous. Its a great idea, and see what food she likes... maybe hit up a smoothie place, or if you are at a shopping center, get coffee or hot chocolate. You can even use this as a chance to see what stuff she likes as a gift. You seem like a nice guy.
Plan out somewhere for lunch, or ask her to help pick a place. If you are at a place with a movie, you could even check whats playing. I would recommend a mall or shopping center with an arcade, candy shop, and weird little shops you can go in. Make sure to bring a camera to take fun and goofy pictures. When my boyfriend and I go out, we always do silly things like try on hats, and we post pics on facebook. I have one of him in a BIG hat with a purse and a scarf in JC Penny. Lots of stuff to do, just be yourself...

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