Ok... i get this weekend they are here because my husband is sick. he has been having a pain on his top foot and we were at the Urgent Care all last night. he may have Gout. So hes on meds. hes in pain when he walks and is relaxing. Yesterday i over heard him talking with his mom while he explained what happen he mentions that they may come... so I asked him maybe its better they let you relax and just come next weekend. he seemed bothered they were coming. Anywho. as we were relaxing.... DING DONG!!! to a surprise there they are.. First of all i will say YES IAM GREATFUL I LOVE THEM .... But a call would have been nice. we were in PJs just relaxing since we dont get to do that very often... Then they come on with juices eggs and groceries ... then begin telling us that we dont eat healthy and (im NOT SKINNY...) then saying all kinds of un needed things. as if were still lil kids..... I sat here and just listened and smiled... anyway.... i felt like they were telling me how and what Not to feed him and that we need to change our whole lifestyle. I COOK 6 days a week and "splurge" once... so i was like ok.
NOW their in my back yard cutting a tree and mowing the lawn lol which again, Wow Yes Im LUCKY... but i feel like WHY TODAY!??!?!?! arghhh ok. anyways.... im a little upset because i feel like their doing what we should. But in the condition my husband is in it'd be better they weren't here today. and as much...
I dont mind them here but it seems like its often there here we live closer to 2 hours away so i think thats a hard drive and i feel bad they drive so much and much rather have them not come so much. am i whinning or what?!??! im annoyed YES VERY MUCH. i feel like my Inlaws want to be part of our every moment... we moved away and bought a home far so we could kind of resort and not deal with it but it seems like its never ending. Now what was suppose to be a nice relaxing day seems ruined.
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Your inlaws are over at the weekend because your husband has gout? Even that is pretty weird to me. Tell them to pick up a phone, call him and ask how he is doing...
- It is YOUR house. YOU decide who comes in and who doesn't.
- They are your husbands relatives, HE should be the one to deal with them. Since he is not happy with them coming over either, he should be the one to tell them to quit stopping by so often and unannounced.
- When they want to do things around the house, DONT LET THEM! Don't give them that power to hold over you.
- Make an effort to go see them once in a while, they obviously care enough to drive two hours, arrange to go see them one weekend of the month or so.
Jen Ettle
OMG that is so annoying I would hate that. NOt the mowing my lawn part, but everything else yes. They need to back off!
Kerbear
Have you ever seen the show, "Everybody Loves Raymond"? That is what your family situation sounds like! You must remember that no matter how old your children get, you still feel like they are your babies - I know my mom does and her youngest is now 48! You do sound like you appreciate your in-laws so you must have a pretty good relationship with them, but it still won't be your place to talk about their unannounced dropping in - tell your husband that he needs to have a talk with them. Make sure he knows how much you care about them, but you just would like to have a little more alone time with him and not them, especially every weekend. His parents mean well and really seem to want to help while hubby is incapacitated, but you must tell your husband and try to reach a happy medium before your feelings change! Good Luck!
Grace
Should they have called? Yes. Should you be this upset? No. They're his parents, and you are now part of the family. As annoying as family may be at times, you don't get to tell them that you don't want them around. You might feel like the in-laws are invading your territory, but I'm sure that they might feel the same way about you at times. Sometimes that transition of joining a family may not be the smoothest, but eventually you will see eye to eye. They will realise that dropping in unexpectedly may not be your cup of tea, or you will realise that an occasional visit (especially where gifts and free labor are involved) isn't all that bad. It will become second nature. In the mean time, be cordial. Hope all goes well.
Voula
Hey just remember they have to go back home sometime. There probably over protective parents who want to make sure there son or daughter is being taken care of the "Right way" Adult or not.
Good Luck with this and sorry your weekend got Ruined.
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