Well I never believed my dad because I never witnessed her doing this but I noticed she plays mind games with me and my dad and sometimes my brother. She always says that my dad is mean and always grumpy. He isnt in the best shape of health and has CHF and gets gout and sometimes moans or groans or gets grumpy because he isnt feeling good. She is so selfish that she starts yelling at him because he gets grumpy or moans because hes in pain because of his gout. She blames him because of my past growing up and skipping school and throwing and breaking things. She says that hes not a father and hes just a "friend" because he "spoils me" and buys me expensive things.
Well recently, my dad was in the hospital having surgery on his pacemaker and on that day, my mom came home from the hospital and took a bag of food over to my aunt (my dads sister). My brother went with her and I stayed home. Two days later when my dad came home from the hospital, my brother told me that "mom was telling auntie bad things about you and talking about dad". He then was telling me the things that she said. Basically it was just about things that happened with me like 5 years ago and shes still crying about it. My aunt is fooled into believing her and was giving her support and stuff. She kept telling my aunt that "she always has to go to the hospital because of my dad always being sick" and he just treats her like shyt and stuff. My mom always cries, when she has to do something for my grandma (her mother) like taking her to the doctors or store, my mom starts complaining and whining saying "im so tired of running I dont feel like it" and all this other BS. Like today my grandma called and wanted her to take my grandpa to the doctors tommorow and she told him that my dad was a doctors appointment tommorow too and she wont be able to make it, which my dad DID NOT have one.
She acts like a kid! Like she constantly feels sorry for herself and ALWAYS switches the blame or something on someone else. When I told my dad about what she did at my aunts, he went out to her and told her to stop running around and crying to people. He said he told her that "you dont have it bad, your full of shyt" which she DOESNT! All she does it sit at home all day or go to her friends for 9 hours everyday. Today she went to her friends and came home 4 hours later and was complaining and being grumpy like she always does.
Shes running out of stuff to say and complain about. I havent been bad in years or done anything to my parents because ive matured alot. So in the midst of all this, she was searching through my computer and trying to look for stuff to tell my aunt. Now she doesnt say nothing, she just saves it all up and she runs and tells people.
Shes also two faced towards people. She talks about all her friends behind their backs. She used to be against my aunt and used to be jealous of her. I just wish my aunt would realize that shes using her for sympathy. Her one friend already knows what shes like and they dont speak often. She has major jealousy problems with people and her friends arent at all smart. There all slow in the head and are dumb as hell and act retarded. I guess she likes to make herself look good. When theres other people, lets say that look "smart" or act smart or wise she wont like them. Instead she'll find something about them and start talking about them so then after listening to her talk about them, she'll convince you to start disliking them. She has problems and its driving me nuts! Im scared to visit my relatives or visit my aunt because I know my aunt told my cousin and my mom has told everyone about me. I believe she wants them to turn against me so she can laugh and feel good. Its not that its them bugging me, its just the things shes telling my aunt and the things she tells my aunt about my dad. Its like the shape my dads in, and shes over there talking bad about him and complaining about how bad she has it.
Theres tons of other stuff I would type but it would take me all day to explain a lifetime of what shes like. BTW i'm 16 years old turning 17 in a few days.
The only thing that has happened recently was I dropped out of school because of social anxiety. I have no friends or anyone to talk to about this. I dropped out about a year ago. She knows that im trying to take GED classes but she keeps putting me down.
I can never talk to her because she throws it up in my face later when we get into an argument. I used to tell her along time ago things that happened when I used to get bullied and she would throw it up in my face later on. She gets really mean and cruel.
Noone knows what shes really like. She tries to be this funny person who cracks jokes and makes people laugh. But when shes at home, its constantly mind games. She'll start complaining or say something to get my dad angry and then she'll get up and walk away for 10 minutes and then come back out like nothing happened and start joking to make my dad laugh or start teasing him.
Oh yeah, when my dad told my mom to stop running around and crying on peoples shoulders, she got up and didnt know what to do. She started screaming and started cusing at my dad calling him a "old f'ing basturd" and "I wish you would die" and then slammed the door shut. She tried to blame it on me to by saying "are you happy were arguing now? hes going to come out smiling" she meant "hes" by me going to smile and laugh because they're arguing which is completyly goofy of her to say. She always says that when she starts arguments.
Christine- My self esteem did go up alot in the past year. I seen the world different since I dropped out of PRISON aka SCHOOL. I was doing GREAT and then all of a sudden I find out my mom was doing all this behind my back and it just put my self esteem really low. I didnt see myself doing anything wrong since 5 years ago. My mom cries about things that happened 30 years ago. She constantly holds grudges against people if they did or said anything negative about her.
Christine
That sounds like a really depressing, frustrating situation.
It might be best for you to look into moving out. Even living with a relative or family friend just to get away from the home situation. This would make it easier for you to study and achieve your goals without all the stress of your mother.
It sounds like she has a lot of control issues and puts others down to make herself feel better, just like a childhood bully.
Chances are your mother will never change, but you can save yourself.
dj g
jeeze what a dirt bag, sorry if u take offense, i would just tell her to grow up and stop trying to gain off of other peoples weaknessess. plus ill be ur friend! lol
wiggy
I'm sorry your having such a tough time with your mom. It sounds like she just needs to be the center of attention. You should go to your aunt and tell her your side of the story. Let her know your mom is exaggerating things at home just so people will feel sorry for her. Try to work on yourself and see a dr if need be for your social anxiety. Become the best person you can be so all those people she bad mouthed you to will see it wasn't true.
Now Now
Tell her to campaign for Obama.
stargazer
It sure sounds like your mom has a serious problem; it sounds like she has real control issues among other things. Gossips usually do. She sounds immature and manipulative.
Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about HER, only about how you react to her. It does sound like she needs attention, and the only way she can get it is to make herself look like a victim.
I have gout myself and I know it can be excruciatingly painful. Your mother goes out and complains about your father's problem; it then becomes "her" pain. There are lots of people who do this kind of thing; and they can be very draining on other people's patience. What your mother is too selfish to realize is that people who are listening to her gossip are turning around later and telling someone else what a crybaby she is.
Maybe one thing you could remind yourself when you feel this way - people who treat others this way usually get treated that way themselves eventually. Life is a circle, and people that do the kicking eventually get kicked around a bit themselves.
I hope that soon you will be able to find some peace of mind; even if you have to wait until you can move out of your home one day.
Good luck. :)
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