Serious life determining family question. Help!?

Serious life determining family question. Help!?Lately, my Dad had a series of a gout. After about 4 days of having it, he failed a test at his job so he has to study for about 2 weeks again on the topic. He picked me up today after school after my debate class ended. Instead of walking home, he came to pick me up. After I came home, I started to read a little bit of anime/manga on the internet for about an hour. He got mad at me because he came to pick me up but I was doing wasn't studying. After going back into his room, my mom came from Houston with my grandparents. After my grandparents left to their houses, my mom came inside and prepared dinner. At dinner, I was eating my food and I asked my Dad about making myself a bank account prior to me asking him a week ago. (He agreed to do it) My parents and I started talking about stuff and I asked my Dad if we could go to the bank tomorrow. He then angrily replied about his situation and how he's sick right now. I then got self-centered and sulky. He then got even more angry when he saw me. He started talking about his situation and said do you think I can go at a situation like this? I replied no it's ok and put up my plate. He then stood up and started to hit my head that my glasses came off and started to punch me. He then started saying how I was a good-for-nothing person and told me to never ask for a ride again. As I started to cry, I ran out the house with athletic shorts, a t-shirt, and sandals. I sat at a place near a road someplace from my house. After about 1~2hours of thinking and walking on the road, I came back home. (My dad went out to look for me) I came back telling my Mom that I wanted to go to a "shelter" where youths can go. (My mom then explained the situation to me about his stress/struggles etc.) As I heard my Dad park in front of the house, I ran upstairs. When I ran upstairs, my mom told me to either move out or my dad was going to move out. I told her I wanted to move out but my mom said to both move out. I started to pack my things when I heard my dad leave the house with his car. I don't know if I should go to the shelter and start over or just run away/suicide.
If you could help me in this situation, that would be REALLY kind of you. I'm struggling right now because I don't know what to do. Please help me with ideas or ways I could fix this situation.

I'm 15years old, Korean, in an average family.

Thanks for reading the long passage. Have a nice day.

abe
Try to be supportive of your father, his condition is a frustrating one.

Sigh no more
Wait for a few days, see if any gets any better, I hope they do. Don't lose hope in life.

Fair & balanced like Fox™
Well first off DON'T COMMIT SUICIDE OR RUN AWAY! You are young and still have a life to live! Don't ruin that!

Try anything you can to work this situation out. This shelter seems like a last resort, but do it if you have to. Chances are that this situation needs time. And that your dad may forgive you, and you may forgive your father. Remember that your fathers condition is very difficult and stressful for him, and try to keep contact with your family.

Bless you and good luck.

Light&Life
I'd wait it out a bit. Lay low with your dad. Just try to stay out of his way as much as possible. You don't try to talk with an angry dragon, right? When you see he's in this mood - just do not engage him at all. Going to a shelter is not good either. It may sound like a good alternative, but I'd say it's probably not the best. Wait it out. You have about two years to go to university, so focus on your studies so you can get into a good program and support yourself quickly. Especially if your dad is a bit uneven and sick, you need to start thinking about your future, your career, what kind of family you would like to have someday, etc. Many of those decisions start with what you are doing right now. So stay out of trouble with your dad, and focus on yourself and making the most of yourself so you don't end up repeating bad family habits in your own family. Good luck and know that you can overcome these challenges and thrive.

iris054
I am so sorry you're having such a hard time, sweetie. My father beat me and my sisters brutally when I was living at home. I spent my entire childhood terrified of him, and he did permanent structural damage to all three of us that causes us pain to this day... so I think I might understand how you feel. You are not alone -- many of us have been there. But that was long ago and there was nothing anyone could do to help me and my sisters. These days there is much that can be done to help you if you really need help.

Please do not kill yourself!! Life is like a roller coaster for all of us... it goes up to good times and down to bad times, then back up and down over and over. When we are in our bad times, that means good times are ahead of us. Hang on! There are many wonderful, beautiful times ahead of you in life where you will be very happy. Don't throw your life away; there is nothing wrong with you.

Please do not go to a shelter. There are bad people out there on the street in every town who could hurt you. You need a safe place to go.

Neither one of your parents should have acted like they did. Shame on them both.

If your father normally hits you like that, you need to tell your school counsellor and you need to get help. If abuse can be proven, Child Protective Services can take you out of your home and put you in a foster home where you will have food, shelter, clothing, and hopefully a lot of love. You do not have to live with abuse or be on the street, either one. There are other choices.

If this is the only time your father has acted like this, then it is because he is in terrible pain and he's not thinking straight because of the pain. In that case, stay out of his way as much as you can and do everything you can to keep peace in your family, and this problem should be over soon. And don't let his cruel words hurt you because he doesn't mean them. Neither does your mother if she is under a lot of stress, and it sounds like she is. Sometimes we all do and say things we shouldn't.

Here is a web site set up to help teens in trouble anywhere in the country, and they have a phone number for you to call.
http://www.child.net/teenhelp.htm

I will be thinking about you and praying for you. I hope you will let us know how this works out for you and I hope everything works out well. With any luck this was just a once-in-a-lifetime mistake that won't ever happen again.

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