All i know is that i used to b a very confident young lady, i was beautiful, smart sexy, well liked and a very loving person. I was wild some would say because i loved to have fun so Much dn i had no fear in the world. i was always smiling....now my face is straight im so so quiet and when starting a new job im viewed as shy, so quiet, and i really do find it hard to even speak up to customers. I don't have alot of friends because id ont put myself out there because i get all nervous, i know that's my own fault not having the friends but that feeling of nervousness is truly hard core. I don't have the power to stand up to myself anymore and allot of people walk all over me and im easily affected. I feel angry Alot these days but contain that with in, i feel so angry because i know im missing gout on the things i know im capable of if only i had that confidence back and it is truly ruining my life and i am passing by allot of opportunities because of this.....please don't its as easy as just do it because its not... i have tried that and i feel like the switch hs been turned off and i need help understanding why and how i can turn it back on. it so horrible its lead to living in a really dark worldd it causes so much problems.
slick
Don't care what anybody thinks about you
CM♥SK
OMG! I'm exactly the same! Seriously! You've just explained how i feel pretty much all the time.
The reason i lost my confidence was because of my ex and i let him walk all over me and then he hurt me! Like big timeeee! and since then, i've been like how you've just explained.
All i do is try and get out with my few friends which i can trust! The rest and nothing to me because all your friends will let you down sooner or later - whether they say they'll be a friend forever or not.
You're the only one who can help yourself build your confidence up and i'm not saying it's going to be easy cos it's not but take it slow and you'll get there.
I work as a hairdresser and a nursery nurse and obviously for both jobs, you have to be well outspoken; have to know how to get a good conversation going but i couldn't cos i was so nervous, shy and worried about what they'd think of me that i just stayed quiet but that needed to change; so every week i try to get myself out there and just go for it and not care what anyone else thinks. You are who you are and if people don't like it then fcuk them! You don't need them!
Chin up and keep smiling through anything people throw at you and eventually, you will get there :)
solas lethe
i hate to push pills on ya but try st johns wort. its an herbal supplement. it woked great for me. try with 1 for a few days. if you dont see a change go to 2 . if it works as well for you as it did me youll have your confidence back in no time. because youll start feeling better and you can train your brain to start thinking possitively again.it may be just the boost you need to turn on your switch.
Bradley
You are if you already havent done so drive yourself crazy worrying about what people say and think. Do something good for yourself i hate seeing you like this even though i dont know you it still hurts me to see you like this. Talk to the bishop at any local LDS church. Talk to a doctor. FORGET ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT THEY SAY its what you think of yourself that matters you need to change your mindset. I hope tis helps you tell me if it does
V.C.10
People's confidence and sense of self can gradually change over time, but I think you should take small steps to come out of your comfort zone a little. Make your self do small things that make you feel slightly uncomfortable. You could set a goal to talk to one new person every day. I think it's also important to surround yourself around people you do feel safe to be yourself around. Take a few chances and you may be surprised that you will gain more and more confidence. Also try and create new hobbies and interests to give yourself more of a sense of who you are and what you like and you can then share that with other people. You may also seriously consider seeing a counselor to talk about these feelings and rule out a social anxiety disorder. Good luck sweetie--take it one step at a time. :o)
p.s. Be patient with yourself these things can take some time to change--hug
Orignal From: Ive lost my confidence and now i find it hard to even talk...what can be done?
No comments:
Post a Comment