Help with a horrible living situation: abusive stepfather?

Help with a horrible living situation: abusive stepfather?I recently posted a question about my abusive step-father and the way he treats my mother. Well, I honestly didn't know the extent of it until me & my boyfriend moved in with them. It has truly been a nightmare. It was a temporary situation meant to help us to move to a new state and get established, then find a place. Well, we are moving out this Tuesday.So basically we are out of the house in a few days. My mother who usually takes the brunt of the abuse is not here. She is in CA with the rest of our family caring for my aunt who has cancer. My stepfather is a miserable man, even the morning after my mother left town, he began to harass me, he calls names, yells at me for stupid things, walks around swearing. He basically makes life a living hell, and I think because my mom isn't here to take his abuse he is trying to put it on me. And he always gets me alone, he won't do it in front of my boyfriend. I try my hardest not to set him off or respond but its impossible. It's constant harassment, example: I was mopping the kitchen floor, because he has been a longtime heavy alcoholic, he has alcoholic neuropathy and gout, so his toes are literally falling off and numb, so he stumbles around and his feet are constantly bleeding. So every morning I have to mop up the blood from his feet in the kitchen and bathroom. He wanted me to adjust the ringer on the handset of the home phone, I said in a minute, he shoved the phone in my face and just kept repeating his question. Finally I just said No, Can't you see I'm in the middle of something? I'll do it when I am done. He gave me a dirty look and walked away, but after that it was like it's on, he's yelling harassing me ever since. He'll randomly yell at me"Get the f*** out" just basically acts crazy like an upset kid.

I really was not aware that this was what my mom is living with until I moved in, and I figured if he wants us out so bad, he knows that we are leaving in a few days so why is he doing this now? So the reason I am writing this is, as we are moving I am very aware of the mail whats coming in ect, I recently put in the change of address to take effect Tuesday. But I noticed we have been missing important things, my boyfriends pay stub which looks like a check, my car payment, my unemployment claim form. (Which they cut off anyways but until I get a job I am still supposed to mail in the forms.) I started to think he may be destroying or stealing our mail. First I thought maybe I am just paranoid, first the car payment, then the day the pay stub should have came, it didn't, then my claim form comes the following day, it didn't come. Then I realized that he has been checking the mail constantly, so I have not had a chance to get it, he usually beats us to it. So he works a graveyard shift, I got up really early and decided to take a look, well I found my claim form in a folder next to his bed, completely opened, the original envelope not around. So obviously my suspicions were correct. I couldn't find the pay stub but the previous day was trash day so he might have tossed it already. I called my mother in CA and told her, I had mentioned it before that I thought he might be taking our mail, but she thought he wouldn't do that, she recommended me looking in the trash to see if he accidentally threw it away. I looked around a little in the trash and found a poem written by some girl on a napkin and also an ATM receipt for $ 100 taken out of an acct that he supposedly doesn't have, or she sure didn't know about. She almost didn't believe it but its from a bank right near his work. A bank that they don't have an acct. with, so my point is now I'm telling her about the mail she definitely believed me.

So problem is..this man is abusive, obviously a liar and capable of anything. Well we are planning Monday to drive out to CA at the crack of dawn, load our truck,see my family for a moment, drive it back to NV, spend our last night at the house, then move into our place Tuesday. But now we are really worried about leaving him alone with our stuff and our 2 cats, who are indoor only(coyotes around here). Our room is full of our stuff and new stuff for our place, plates,lamps,supplies,ETC. We are afraid that he might try to do something. ( He has done that in the past, destroys things of my moms, keepsake stuff, gifts from friends to get back at her) He hadn't done anything to our stuff since we have been here but if he is taking our mail..whats next before we go? And he has never been friendly to my cats so if they are left alone with him, he could even just let them outside. So I don't know what to do, we are so close to leaving. My boyfriend thought just take them, but one cat is kinda sick now and it might make him worse. The other option is board them, but tommorows Sunday we'd have to find a place that'd be open to take them, plus they usually want th

Greg
If you want to leave and take some stuff with you, your best bet is to call the police and have a police officer watch as you get your stuff and pack it up.

Don't be afraid to get the police involved. They are there to PROTECT AND SERVE.

Just call them up and explain the situation and that you and your mom are afraid of him. They will send someone out to watch while you get your stuff packed up. It won't go on anyone's record or anything, so don't be afraid to do it.

Alekzandrya
How about you reschedule your trip to CA, and leave now, I don't know how you did it but that is something that no one should deal with.

I would not trust leaving my things in a home where he has access to everything and can destroy my things and not get in trouble, because his excuse will be that it is on his property and he has a right to do what he wishes.

Another thing you should try and do is talk your Mom into staying away from him. He is a miserable man that needs to be alone.

Make the right decision for you and your loved ones

Good Luck with everything

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